Celebrate One Million

Recently I was turned onto a book called, The Secret Language of Feelings by Calvin D. Banyan. The whole curiousness I have had around why I feel this way or that, or why I beat myself up when I feel scared, frustrated, inadequate, guilty or sad was satisfied. Feelings that have held me back were clearly explained and a process was outlined which I could implement immediately about how to start acknowledging my feelings now. I picked up this book used at Amazon for $12.98.

The first thing that I learned is that all feelings are good. We only feel bad when we don’t take the time to understand the feelings that vibrate within us. The book explains each feeling, gives them names and a clear concise way to deal with our feelings logically, quickly and efficiently so that we can quickly move on. One little issue that may arise during the day may send a ripple of fear through me, halting me in my tracks and debilitating me for hours or days, or in the past, for years. Once you hear the words in the book and understand that our feelings are our built-in guidance system, nature’s way of letting us know which of our needs aren’t being fulfilled and creating a motivation to take an action to do something, you begin to be grateful for the not so good feelings. Feelings left ignored, give free rein to frustration, stress and eventually depression.

The author gives us three step process to coach ourselves.

1. Identify/name the feeling.
2. Identify the cause of the feeling. What is the unfilled need, want or desire.
3. Identify a satisfying response, that is, an action that fulfills the need want to desire.

Pick up the book or email me at sheryl@womencelebrations.com an I will coach you through a feeling that is holding you back. Just tell me what is going on in a few sentences. Describe the feeling the best you can and name the cause of this feeling.